When you need to find your fight again…
We spent this last weekend at our church for the Family Life Conference. It was a weekend to strengthen, encourage, and refresh families as they navigate through the joys and challenges of parenting.
It was such a great weekend, and if you were able to join us, I hope you left feeling encouraged! I, personally, came away challenged in different areas for our marriage and parenting.
BUT, let me just tell you something…the last couple of weeks leading up to this past weekend weren’t easy…to be honest, they were HORRIBLE!
Isn’t that how it goes? Seems like the enemy knows just when, where, and how to target us. UGH!
So, naturally, the days leading up to this weekend we hit some issues in our home. We were trying to get so much done. I kept looking at a to-do list that seemed to continually grow rather than shrink. I found myself thinking in circles. Sickness hit. Sleep was not happening…at all. Miscommunication in our marriage. Parenting challenges.
Basically, if it could go wrong…it went wrong.
In the middle of everything I found myself asking, “Why are we doing this?” and I would hear the Lord whisper, “Because I care.”
You guys, He cares. He cares about your children. He cares about your heart. He cares about the season you are in right now. He cares about what happens in your home. He cares about you, and He cares about your family.
Family is a beautiful thing – it’s God ordained, God designed, God purposed, and God fashioned. In the beginning, God created…and part of that creation was the establishment of family.
I am increasingly aware of God’s heart for family. For my family. For your family. I am also aware that there is a fight happening over family – a fight over God’s design and establishment.
We live in a culture that is fighting against family, and this past weekend we came together to fight for it.
“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the river, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
– Joshua 24:15 –
We are living in a “choose for yourselves” culture, and there are plenty of choices out there. Choose your house, choose your car, choose your style, choose your job, choose your lifestyle, choose your gender, choose your god, choose your truth…
“Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…” What is your family choosing? Who is your family serving?
Will we choose to serve our culture and the ways of the land we live in? Or, with everything in us, will we stand and say, “As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
God’s word has a lot to say about family, marriage, and raising our children. It’s truth is a lamp for our feet and a light for our path…but it’s our choice to walk in the light of truth or take our own way.
“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve.”
Friends, we don’t get to not choose.
We’re either intentionally choosing to serve the Lord and walk in His truth, or we’re passively choosing to serve the “gods of the Amorites” in whose land we are living. In our culture, that looks a lot like the gods of self, pride, success, perfectionism, materialism, media, knowledge, status, apathy, etc…
I have been overcome these last few weeks with a heaviness in my heart for families…for my family and for yours.
So, why do we fight for family?
Because He fought for family. Because it’s a battle worth fighting for. It matters. My family matters. Your family matters.
Don’t let someone else care more about fighting for your family than you do. Don’t let another friend, mentor, pastor, or counselor do the fighting for your family. Let them fight alongside you…let them give you tools and insight, but get in the fight for yourself.
Choose for yourselves…no one gets to make that choice for you or your family except you.
This is a choice we get to make today, and when tomorrow comes, we get to make the choice again. Our life is made up of a series of choices….it will mean day, after day, after day “choosing THIS day” whom we will serve.
I am praying for families – for Dads and Moms to rise up and say, “We are making our choice. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. We choose Him today and will choose Him again with each new day.”
I am praying for families who find themselves in a struggle and are fighting with each other – may they find themselves no longer fighting WITH each other but FOR each other.
I am praying for families who find themselves falling a part – know that He can and will hold all the pieces.
If your family suddenly doesn’t look like you thought it was supposed to look, I am praying that you will have eyes to see your family the way HE sees your family. He has a vision and a plan…He knows.
I am praying for a passion to rise up within us…a passion for family, a passion for truth, and a passion to see our families walking in the TRUTH. May we realize that what goes on in the four walls of our homes is critically important.
Friends, no matter where you find yourself today, no matter what your family is facing…know that your family is seen, your family is loved, and your family is important.
I am praying for families to find their fight again.
We care about your family, because He cares about your family. You are not alone.
We are fighting for our family and we will fight along side you for yours.
“As for me and my house
we will serve the Lord.”